Coffee With Chloe - Issue 8
- Chloe Grant
- Nov 4, 2022
- 6 min read
Eeeeeky, it's Friday again. funny how it just keeps coming around like that. How are you all? Did you have fun on Halloween? The clocks have gone back as well, so dark cosy nights are finally upon us & I couldn't be happier.
I can tell I need a rest because I am feeling a bit meh. We were supposed to go out for dinner with friends this weekend & to Leeds shopping but I have decided to cancel so I can just rest. I never actually rest much I am always busy doing something so this morning I am going to get all my cleaning done before work, then I can come home to a tidy house & I won't feel so bad tomorrow having a lie in. It's a child free weekend so lots of lemon, ginger & keeping warm so I can be rested & ready to take on the world again next week. I am sad we won't be doing the lovely things we had planned but I made a promise to myself to listen to my body more so I don't burn myself out.
This week we will be talking about ways to set boundaries, boosting you immune system, crystals to help boost your immune system & of course my book review "The Last Mrs Parrish"
So as always grab your coffee, get cosy & lets get into this weeks episode of Coffee With Chloe
Healing
Setting healthy boundaries is super important for a healthy life. If we don't set boundaries we leave ourselves open to be taken advantage of.
Unfortunately some people are selfish, they take, take, take & then take some more until we literally have nothing left to give & then when we get fed up of it & finally break.....we are the bad guys?!
Sometimes (most of the time) it is people that we are closest to that take advantage the most. It isn't always possible to get your life scissors out & cut them out entirely (I know, I know that's what I do but I'm a Capricorn it's not my fault) so setting healthy boundaries is a way to protect yourself before you break & become the bad guy.
First things first, stop feeling guilty. Love & friendship doesn't come with conditions. The only people you need to break your back for are the people that live in your house, or people that give you the same amount of effort, support & love you give them. If someone is putting conditions on you or making you feel guilty for not being at their beck & call then these are the people that need to see your strong firm boundaries. If they don't like it, well fuck them basically that's their issue not yours. If they decide to not be apart of your life because of it then let the trash take itself out because they don't deserve to be there in the first place.
Here are some ways to set boundaries:
Do not apologise for meaningless things, if someone is making you feel bad for something that you know is completely ridiculous then don't you dare apologise. It affirms to them that you are in the wrong & you are not. They are in the wrong for making you feel that you need to apologise. It enables them to keep treating you this way.
Don't lose you mind, keep calm, collected & stay firm. If you become hysterical people will turn it around on you. Again you'll be the one in the wrong. They see it as a weakness that they can use against you.
Get comfortable saying no, if you don't feel comfortable with something say no. My friends probably hate me because if they ask me to do something & I don't want to I don't make up a stupid excuse I just say no I don't want to. You don't owe anyone an explanation. Your no is enough of an explanation.
Don't be scared to communicate your feelings, if you are scared to say how you feel then you will do things you don't want to do. You know your mind better than anyone, so speak your truth.
Setting boundaries isn't always easy, it can upset people & cause conflict, these times are for you to take a step back & retreat. Eventually people usually grow to accept your boundaries & know not to push them then come back with their tails between their legs, the one thing to remember is not back down, no matter how sorry you feel keep strong what you need in your life & make them show you the same respect you give them.
Wellbeing
WINTER IS COMING!!
The dreaded lurgy is on the way. As I said this morning I am not feeling my best this week so this weekend it's mission get back to feeling better so I have been googling like a crazy hypochondriac to try & find the perfect cure & stop this meh feeling turning into a full blown illness that knocks me off my feet & puts me in bed for a week.
So here are some of the things I am going to be trying:
As much as I'd love to stay in bed all weekend watching real housewives I am going to try do some gentle stretching. I have found lots of immune boosting yoga stretches on YouTube so I'll be dragging my yoga mat out because as you all know I think Mondays are the worst days to start a new routine so I will be starting this on Saturday to get me more into the routine by Monday so I am more likely to stick to it.
Get outside, I know I said I cancelled my plans for the weekend but I am still going to go out for some walks to get that essential vitamin D & fresh air. I will by no means going on huge hikes but I will nip round the tarn a couple of times at the very least.
This next one might sound completely ridiculous but for me if I sit & no nothing off my to do list I absolutely can't relax & I get super anxious which lowers your immune system even more. So I will make sure to make a small to do list so I can feel like I have accomplished something but still find time to relax.
Get lots of sleep, sleep is essential in the healing process, which is why I am probably not feeling my best because I have had lots of early mornings & late nights. I am not someone who can nap in the day very often but I will make my bedtime routine a bit nicer this weekend so that I am relaxed & can get early nights. Hot baths, bath bombs & face masks will be on the agenda. I will be kinder to myself as well if I do happen to fall asleep on the sofa then that's absolutely fine, usually I'll be so disappointed in myself & angry that I had wasted the day, but when you feel a bit off it this sleep isn't wasted time. If anything it is time well spent.
Use my acupressure mat, this is my lifeline it helps to relax me so much. I got into a routine of using it every single day & I had never felt better but as life happens you get out of routines of things that make you feel good. So this weekend that mat is getting dragged back out.
Obviously eat healthy (Boring) but essential
Fresh lemon, honey & ginger tea. Basically just squeeze half a women & slice the rest, cut up some ginger & add some honey to hot water the absolute perfect immune boosting tea.
Crystals
Malachite Thumb Stone £19.50
Heals & boosts the immune system. Helps to heal the mind, body & spirit. Dealing with any ailment you can think of this crystal might be small but it is mighty.
Helping to heal period pain & make your cycle that music easier. Lowering blood pressure & encouraging quick healing.
Not only is this crystal good for the immune system but it is also incredible for boosting your confidence, setting healthy boundaries & also getting rid of any limiting beliefs that may be holding you back.
What's Good This Week
I loved, loved, loved, loved, loved this book. When I first started reading this I was worried that it was going to be same old "mistress steals husband" kinds scenario but it wasn't.
Again I can't say too much without giving the game away but I literally could not put this book down & it wasn't Colleen Hoover yay my addiction my very well be over.
Daphne always knew she wasn't totally sure about Jackson (BUT SHE WAS A PEOPLE PLEASER WHO DIDN'T SET BOUNDARIES) she married him anyway & things took a turn for the worst. All I will say is she fought & managed to come out on top. This book does contain rape & abuse but not in a traumatic graphic way. Everyone gets what they deserve in the end. 12/10
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